Kinky all in the family: A letter from my mother-in-law.
Dear Amy:
I wanted to follow up on our phone conversation about your ongoing reinforcement training that you do with Peter. I have read the material you have sent me about the program, and I have found it to be very interesting. Of course, I had never really incorporated "natural female superiority" as part of my BDSM work. Vivian and I had just done it to earn a bit of cash on the side. It always pays very well, as the few customers that we had were all very wealthy, and so we charged a lot. haha
But everything I've read about the philosophy of your program meshes very neatly with what I believe about the mental, psychological, sexual and emotional superiority of women over their weaker male counterparts.
What I have learned over the years is that a man (or "male," as your literature refers to them) can be taken into a very deep mental state of submission to you, if you simply utilize the tools and practices that are available to you.
Of course, Vivian and I were not formally trained, but only "acted" as dominatrices for our clients. But, we must have been successful, as they kept crawling back, to the point that I could chew them out and punish them when they didn't come back on a regular basis. Ha! What fun!
Nevertheless, in spite of my lack of formal training, I do know what works, and what doesn't work. I know what practices the client may like, but I also know what practices will bring him under your spell, whether he likes that practice or not.
Of course, one of the things I have learned is that any time you are really punishing a client, he is not going to like it. But, if you can combine embarrassment and humiliation with your punishment, then you can force him into a much deeper level of submission. In doing so, you also make him much more trustworthy, loyal, helpful, obedient, and all those things that little boy scouts should be.
And these are the things that I wish you'd start incorporating into your twice weekly sessions with Peter. From what you've told me, you already have some of the larger pieces of equipment: the big X-cross, the bondage bed, the bondage chair, and the upright stocks. I believe that's all you told me.
And, I know you have several good strong metal beams across the ceiling of your "playroom" from which you can suspend a pully hoist. I recommend one that is rated for a ton or more. Even though Peter weighs a lot less than 200 pounds, it doesn't hurt to have equipment that will hold much greater weight than you need.
From the hoist, you can suspend a swing, a suspension bar, a cage, or whatever.
But, here are some of the larger items that I have used that you may want to add to your playroom. All can be found at the extreme restraints website:
1.) The extreme punishment bench;
2.) The cock & ball pillory;
3.) The steel suspension bar;
4.) The delux puppy cage; and
5.) The steel impaler tower.
Any of those are furniture items that will help you during training sessions, especially when you are hosting a playdate and have two or more boys to deal with. Otherwise, they are all helpful for holding your little man in the position you want him.
Now we get to the good stuff! Here are some items that I'd like to see you buy for yourself. I have some of them in my little equipment bag, and will bring them with me. But, you really do need your own.
1.) Penis gag. I know you have a ball-gag and and bit gag, but I just feel that if you use the penis gag on a regular basis, it will train Peter to feel more natural about the feel of a penis in his mouth, if that's something you want to continue with. Remember, that will help force him into deeper submission to you.
2.) Cock and ball toys. I just don't think you can have enough of these in different designs in your bag of tricks. Here are some of my favorites:
3.) Cock rings. You can buy kits with several rings in different sizes.
4.) Chrome Triple Cock and Ball Ring. One ring encircles the base of the cock and balls, one ring circle the base of the balls only, and one circles the base of the cock.
5.) Anal Intruder Cock Ring. This version has a ring that fits around the base of the cock and balls, but has a curved bar that extends back to the anus, where a stainless steel ball becomes an anal insert.
6.) Anal Intruder Cock Ring with Urethral Plug. What fun! Just like the previous item, but with a Urethral Plug.
7.) Cock Ring with Urethral Plug. Like the one above, but without the anal insert. When I have a client firmly restrained and gagged, I love to see the look on their face as they watch me put this on them.
At the Bondage Fetish Store Dot Com, you will find the following "must have" items:
1.) Kink Lab 5 Gates of Hell. This is the cock & ball harness with the multiple rings that encircle his cock, from the base down to the head. Some are made with seven rings, for the more well-endowed boys. And some have fewer rings. From what Katrina has told me about little Peter's peter, you may have to find a shorter one with smaller rings.
The best thing about this is that the consecutive steel rings constrict him more and more, and his pain becomes more exquisite, as he becomes more and more aroused. Of course, your little black dominatrix outfit and stiletto heels don't help his dilemma one bit. As is restrained there on the X-cross, and as he continues to give in to the temptation to feast his eyes on you, he only makes his torture more painful. Poor, poor boy. But, think of the wonderful lesson he is learning. LOL
2.) Glans Ring with Sperm Stopper. I don't know why, but I just love this little item. I cannot wait to look little Peter in the eye when I put this on him.
3.) The Gates of Hell Penis Plug. Similar to the item above, but it has a head ring and a second ring that encircles the penis an inch or so down the shaft. It also includes a 3.2 inch long urethral plug, attached to the head ring.
Lisa, there are SO many more toys that you can find on these two website. All of which will help you bring Peter's big head, and little head, into the proper frame of mind.
I so admire your ability to have brought him this far down the right path, I'd hate to see you not explore all the possibilities. Please think about when a good time would be for me to come down. I'd love to bring Vivian with me, if you like. We could make a party out of it.
I am looking forward to getting back into all of this. I still have my bag of tricks, but haven't used them in awhile. And heaven knows I have plenty of black garterbelts, corsets, shoes, gloves, etc.
Let me know, sweetie.
Catherine
